I was recently at a cemetery in Seattle where I was working in my long term project with my friend Joe, and we saw a woman who was visibly distraught bag one of the grave stones and attach a laminated hand written letter to it, by her actions and the methodology she was clearly looking to have this document read and by as many people as possible.
The gist of the letter was that the deceased had abused her as a child and then shot himself in front of her. The last line read “you should not be here, you are a dishonorable man, you do not belong here”.
My feelings on the matter are irrelevant, but getting you to see this isn’t.